When I found out I was pregnant, one of my first questions was: What do I do about my ADHD medication?
The answers I received were confusing.
My primary care provider recommended that I stop taking my stimulant medication immediately. Later, my OB-GYN told me that, based on the current evidence and my individual circumstances, it would have been reasonable to continue taking it.
As someone who values evidence-based care, I found myself caught between two medical opinions from professionals I trusted.
Ultimately, I chose to stop my medication during pregnancy, but I want to be honest about something that isn't discussed enough:
The first few months without my medication were incredibly difficult.
I struggled with fatigue, motivation, organization, emotional regulation, and the mental load that comes with preparing for a baby. Of course, pregnancy itself changes energy levels and cognition, but losing a tool that had helped me function effectively for years added another layer of challenge.
My experience taught me something important: there is no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to ADHD treatment during pregnancy.
Many women with ADHD are surprised to learn that healthcare providers may have very different recommendations about stimulant medications during pregnancy.
Historically, providers often advised discontinuing stimulant medications out of caution because research on pregnancy exposure was limited. However, newer studies suggest that therapeutic use of many ADHD medications does not appear to significantly increase the risk of major birth defects, although certain pregnancy risks may still need careful monitoring. Decisions must be individualized based on the severity of ADHD symptoms and the parent's overall well-being. (NCBI)
This means that some providers prioritize minimizing any medication exposure, while others emphasize the risks associated with untreated ADHD symptoms.
Both perspectives are rooted in wanting the best outcomes for mother and baby—but that doesn't make the decision any less overwhelming.
When we talk about medication risks, we also need to talk about the risks of untreated ADHD.
ADHD affects far more than attention. It influences:
Emotional regulation
Sleep routines
Nutrition and meal planning
Remembering prenatal appointments
Driving safety
Household management
Stress levels
Relationships and communication
For some women, discontinuing medication may be manageable with additional supports. For others, untreated symptoms can significantly impact daily functioning and mental health.
Emerging recommendations from experts in perinatal ADHD care suggest that women with moderate to severe ADHD may benefit from continuing medication during pregnancy after a thorough risk-benefit discussion with their healthcare team. (PMC)
One of the hardest parts of pregnancy is realizing that many decisions do not have a perfect answer.
For me, choosing to stop my stimulant medication felt right, even though it was difficult.
Would I make the same decision again? Maybe. Maybe not.
What I know now is that I wish I had received more collaborative care from the beginning. Instead of conflicting messages, I needed a conversation that acknowledged both the available evidence and the reality of living with ADHD.
Women deserve nuanced discussions that consider:
The severity of their ADHD symptoms
Previous functioning without medication
Co-occurring anxiety or depression
Occupational demands
Parenting responsibilities
Personal values and comfort levels
If you are pregnant or planning to become pregnant and have ADHD, consider asking:
What does current research say about my specific medication?
What are the risks of stopping medication abruptly?
How severe are my ADHD symptoms without treatment?
Could reducing my dose be an option instead of stopping completely?
What additional supports might help if I discontinue medication?
How will we monitor both my mental health and pregnancy throughout this process?
Collaborative decision-making between your primary care provider, psychiatrist, and OB-GYN can help ensure that all aspects of your health are considered.
If you're navigating ADHD and pregnancy right now, know this:
You are not a bad parent for asking hard questions.
You are not selfish for considering your own functioning and mental health.
And you are not alone if the conflicting advice leaves you feeling confused.
The goal isn't perfection—it's making the most informed decision possible with the information you have, the support you need, and a healthcare team that listens to your experience.
At Twin Cities ADHD, we believe that supporting parents means supporting the whole person—including their neurodivergent brain.
By Paige Kirkanson, MSW, LICSW, ADHD-CCSP
Cohen JM, et al. Maternal and offspring outcomes associated with prescribed ADHD medication in pregnancy: A systematic review. Molecular Psychiatry. 2025. (PMC)
MotherToBaby. Methylphenidate Fact Sheet. National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI), 2026. (NCBI)
MotherToBaby. Dextroamphetamine-Amphetamine (Adderall®) Fact Sheet. NCBI, 2023. (NCBI)
Koren G, et al. Exposure to attention deficit hyperactivity disorder medications during pregnancy. Canadian Family Physician. 2007. (PMC)
If you've spent any time on social media, you've probably seen posts claiming that Adderall or Vyvanse causes "oxidative stress" and that symptoms such as bed rotting, doom scrolling, emotional blunting, cancelling plans, or "losing your personality" are signs that your brain is being damaged. Some supplement companies even promise dramatic improvements within days.
These claims contain a kernel of scientific truth, but they often oversimplify complex biology and make promises that are not supported by research.
Let's look at what the science actually says.
Oxidative stress occurs when the body produces more reactive oxygen species (free radicals) than its antioxidant systems can neutralize. This imbalance can affect cells throughout the body, including the brain.
Think of oxidative stress like rust on a car. Small amounts are normal and expected. Problems occur when the damage accumulates faster than the body's repair systems can keep up.
The brain naturally uses large amounts of oxygen, making it especially vulnerable to oxidative stress. (PMC)
Interestingly, research suggests that ADHD—not just its treatments—may be associated with altered oxidative balance.
A meta-analysis found evidence that individuals with ADHD may experience increased markers of oxidative stress, although the findings remain preliminary and studies have been small. More recent reviews have also found modest but consistent differences in oxidative and antioxidant biomarkers among people with ADHD. (PMC)
In other words:
Having ADHD itself may involve differences in oxidative stress regulation.
That means blaming every symptom on stimulant medication alone oversimplifies the picture.
Amphetamine medications increase dopamine and norepinephrine activity. Dopamine metabolism naturally generates reactive oxygen species, leading scientists to investigate whether stimulants might contribute to oxidative stress.
Laboratory and animal studies have shown that high doses of amphetamine can increase oxidative stress and affect mitochondrial function. However, much of this research involves doses far above therapeutic levels or uses methamphetamine rather than prescribed ADHD medications. (PubMed)
Current evidence does not demonstrate that therapeutic doses of Adderall or Vyvanse cause progressive brain damage in people with ADHD.
Millions of individuals have safely used stimulants for decades, and long-term studies generally support their effectiveness and safety when appropriately prescribed.
Social media often attributes symptoms like:
Bed rotting
Doom scrolling
Cancelling plans
Emotional deadening
Loss of personality
Feeling disconnected
to oxidative stress.
The problem is that these experiences have many possible explanations.
People with ADHD often spend years compensating, masking, and pushing themselves beyond their capacity. This can lead to exhaustion, withdrawal, and low motivation.
Too much stimulant medication can sometimes cause:
Emotional flattening
Reduced spontaneity
Irrability
Feeling "robotic"
These symptoms usually indicate that the medication or dosage needs adjustment rather than permanent damage.
Depression commonly causes:
Social withdrawal
Loss of interest
Excessive scrolling
Fatigue
Difficulty initiating activities
Poor sleep can mimic many symptoms attributed to oxidative stress, including:
Brain fog
Low energy
Mood changes
Executive dysfunction
High stress increases cortisol and affects attention, mood, and motivation.
Many people worry that stimulant medications have changed who they are.
More often, emotional blunting means:
The dose is too high.
The medication timing needs adjustment.
Another medication might be a better fit.
Anxiety or depression are present.
Burnout is occurring.
These are important conversations to have with a prescriber.
Feeling "less like yourself" deserves attention—but it does not automatically mean your brain is under attack.
Many companies market supplements by promising:
"Back in control in 17 days."
"Scientists from Yale created this." (eye roll.....🙄)
"Fixes Adderall nutrient depletion."
These claims go beyond what research supports.
At present, no supplement has been shown to reliably reverse stimulant-related oxidative stress or produce guaranteed improvements within specific timelines.
Research on antioxidants and ADHD is still evolving, and there is insufficient evidence to recommend routine antioxidant supplementation solely because someone takes Adderall or Vyvanse. (PMC)
Rather than chasing miracle supplements, evidence supports focusing on the fundamentals:
Adults with ADHD frequently experience sleep problems. Improving sleep can enhance:
Emotional regulation
Attention
Motivation
Memory
Stimulants can suppress appetite, leading to:
Low blood sugar
Mood changes
Fatigue
"Crashes"
Aim for:
Protein with breakfast
Regular meals
Adequate hydration
Aerobic exercise improves:
Dopamine regulation
Mood
Executive functioning
Stress resilience
Approaches with strong evidence include:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Mindfulness practices
ADHD coaching
If you're experiencing:
Emotional blunting
Withdrawal
Irritability
Feeling unlike yourself
a medication adjustment may help more than adding supplements.
The relationship between ADHD, stimulant medications, and oxidative stress is scientifically interesting, but social media often exaggerates what researchers actually know.
Current evidence suggests:
✅ ADHD itself may be associated with oxidative stress.
✅ Therapeutic stimulants affect dopamine systems and warrant ongoing study.
✅ High-dose amphetamine exposure can increase oxidative stress in laboratory models.
❌ Feeling tired, withdrawn, or emotionally flat does not automatically mean your brain is being damaged.
❌ There is no evidence that supplements can reliably "reverse" stimulant-induced oxidative stress in a matter of days.
If you're taking Adderall or Vyvanse and don't feel like yourself, the answer is rarely panic. More often, it is a signal to evaluate sleep, stress, nutrition, burnout, mental health, and medication fit with your healthcare team.
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Joseph N, Zhang-James Y, Perl A, Faraone SV. Oxidative Stress and ADHD: A Meta-Analysis. Journal of Attention Disorders. 2015. (PMC)
Amiri D, et al. Redox Imbalance in ADHD: A Meta-Analysis of Oxidative Stress and Antioxidant Biomarkers (2010–2025). Clinical Neuropsychiatry. 2026. (Clinical Neuropsychiatry |)
This article is intended for educational purposes and should not replace individualized medical advice from your physician or prescribing clinician.
One of the most meaningful parts of being a therapist is continuing to learn and grow alongside the people we serve. Recently, I attended an advanced training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and ADHD treatment, and I’m excited to begin integrating even more ACT-informed strategies into my work with clients.
For many individuals with ADHD, therapy is not just about “getting organized” or improving focus. ADHD often impacts emotional regulation, shame, avoidance, relationships, motivation, self-esteem, and the constant feeling of being “behind.” ACT offers a compassionate and practical framework for addressing these challenges in a way that feels both empowering and sustainable.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a mindfulness- and values-based behavioral therapy that helps people develop greater psychological flexibility — the ability to stay present, make room for difficult thoughts and emotions, and still move toward the life they want to live. (ScienceDirect)
Rather than trying to eliminate uncomfortable emotions or “fix” every intrusive thought, ACT teaches people how to change their relationship with those experiences. This can be especially helpful for individuals with ADHD who often experience chronic self-criticism, overwhelm, perfectionism, or emotional exhaustion.
ACT focuses on six core processes:
Acceptance
Cognitive defusion (stepping back from thoughts)
Present-moment awareness
Self-as-context
Values clarification
Committed action
Together, these skills help clients respond more intentionally instead of reacting automatically.
Traditional ADHD treatment often focuses heavily on productivity and symptom management. While structure and executive functioning tools are important, many people with ADHD also carry years of frustration, shame, masking, and emotional burnout.
ACT helps address the internal experience of ADHD.
Research suggests ACT may help individuals with ADHD improve emotional regulation, reduce experiential avoidance, and increase psychological flexibility and functioning. A 2021 scoping review found growing evidence that ACT-based approaches may be beneficial for people with ADHD across several domains. (PubMed)
What makes ACT especially valuable for ADHD is that it does not require someone to “feel motivated” before taking action. Instead, it teaches people how to:
Take action even when discomfort is present
Reduce avoidance patterns
Build awareness of emotional triggers
Move toward values rather than perfection
Create a more compassionate internal dialogue
For many ADHD clients, this shift can be transformative.
This recent training deepened my understanding of how ACT can be adapted specifically for ADHD brains. I’m excited to incorporate more:
Mindfulness-based attention strategies
Values-focused goal setting
Emotion regulation tools
ACT exercises for procrastination and avoidance
Shame reduction work
Flexible behavior planning
Nervous system awareness and self-compassion practices
One thing I appreciate most about ACT is that it helps clients stop fighting themselves. Instead of constantly asking, “Why can’t I just do this?” the work becomes, “How do I move toward the life I want, even when my brain feels noisy, overwhelmed, or stuck?”
That shift matters.
Many adults with ADHD have spent years believing they are lazy, inconsistent, “too much,” or failing at things other people seem to do easily. Therapy should not reinforce that narrative.
ACT creates space for clients to understand themselves differently — not through judgment, but through curiosity, flexibility, and values-based action.
The goal is not perfection.
The goal is building a life that feels meaningful, connected, and aligned with who you are.
As I continue integrating these approaches into my practice, I’m looking forward to helping clients develop tools that are not only evidence-based, but also compassionate and realistic for everyday life.
Munawar, K., Choudhry, F. R., Lee, S. H., et al. (2021). Acceptance and commitment therapy for individuals having attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): A scoping review. Heliyon. (PubMed)
Gloster, A. T., Walder, N., Levin, M. E., et al. (2020). The empirical status of acceptance and commitment therapy: A review of meta-analyses. Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science. (ScienceDirect)
Öst, L. G. (2014). The efficacy of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: An updated systematic review and meta-analysis. Behaviour Research and Therapy. (PubMed)
If you have ADHD and spend any amount of time online, chances are you’ve heard someone rave about the “5-3-1 rule.”
It’s usually presented as a simple solution for overwhelm:
organize your day
prioritize a few tasks
stop drowning in endless to-do lists
And honestly?
That sounds appealing to a lot of ADHD brains.
But here’s the interesting part: almost nobody agrees on what the rule actually means.
Some people define it as:
1 big task
3 medium tasks
5 small tasks
Others use it completely differently:
5-minute reset
3 priorities
1 main focus
Some ADHD coaches teach it as a productivity framework. Others describe it as a nervous system regulation tool. Social media creators often present it like a proven ADHD strategy — even though there’s no official clinical “5-3-1 rule” for ADHD.
So where did this idea come from?
And what do experts actually think about it?
The ADHD version of the 5-3-1 rule appears to be an adaptation of the more widely known 1-3-5 productivity method, which became popular in workplace productivity circles years ago.
The original framework encouraged people to aim for:
1 large task
3 medium tasks
5 small tasks
The method was popularized by Alexandra Cavoulacos, co-founder of The Muse, as a way to prioritize tasks without creating unrealistic expectations for the day.
Eventually, ADHD communities online began adapting the idea into more flexible formats. That evolution makes sense because one of the core struggles in ADHD is executive dysfunction — especially around:
task initiation
prioritization
time management
overwhelm
working memory
When someone with ADHD looks at a giant to-do list, the brain often doesn’t interpret it as “motivation.”
It interprets it as:
danger
pressure
chaos
inevitable failure
A shorter, more structured list can feel psychologically safer.
And that’s likely why the system spread so quickly in ADHD spaces.
Many ADHD experts agree that external structure can help reduce cognitive overload.
ADHD impacts the brain’s executive functioning system, which plays a major role in:
organizing information
regulating attention
sequencing tasks
estimating time
shifting focus
emotional regulation
That’s why seemingly “small” tasks can feel disproportionately difficult for people with ADHD.
The appeal of systems like 5-3-1 is that they reduce the number of decisions the brain has to make.
Instead of asking:
“How am I supposed to do all of this?”
the brain only has to answer:
“What matters most right now?”
That reduction in mental clutter can make starting feel more achievable.
For many people, the system also creates:
smaller dopamine wins
visible progress
reduced perfectionism
more realistic expectations
And sometimes, that alone can help break through paralysis.
This is where things get more nuanced.
While many clinicians support the use of external systems and planning tools, experts also warn that social media has a tendency to oversimplify ADHD.
Because ADHD is not just a productivity issue.
ADHD also affects:
emotional regulation
nervous system activation
motivation
sleep
impulsivity
stress tolerance
self-esteem
A productivity framework may help someone organize their day, but it doesn’t “treat” ADHD itself.
That distinction matters.
Some mental health professionals have also expressed concern that internet “ADHD hacks” can unintentionally create shame when they stop working.
Because eventually, many people hit this moment:
“If this simple system works for everyone else… why can’t I stick to it?”
And that’s often where the shame spiral begins.
One of the biggest frustrations many ADHDers report is feeling trapped in endless “optimization culture.”
There’s always:
another planner
another app
another morning routine
another productivity method
another “life-changing” hack
And while tools can absolutely help, many people begin to internalize the idea that productivity equals worth.
That’s dangerous territory for ADHD brains, which are already highly vulnerable to chronic shame and self-criticism.
Some days, a person with ADHD may function incredibly well.
Other days, brushing their teeth feels overwhelming.
Both experiences can exist in the same nervous system.
Rigid productivity systems often fail to account for that variability.
The honest answer is:
sometimes.
For some people, it creates enough structure to reduce overwhelm and improve follow-through.
For others, it becomes:
too rigid
unrealistic
another source of pressure
another thing to “fail” at
And neither experience is wrong.
Most ADHD specialists would likely agree on this:
structure helps
prioritization matters
external supports are useful
flexibility is essential
The most effective ADHD strategies are usually:
individualized
compassionate
adaptable
sustainable
focused on functioning instead of perfection
Rather than searching for one magical productivity method, many clinicians encourage people with ADHD to focus on:
reducing shame
understanding their nervous system
building realistic routines
using external supports
practicing self-compassion
learning energy management instead of perfectionism
That might include:
the 5-3-1 rule
timers
body doubling
medication
therapy
movement
visual reminders
accommodations
scheduled rest
Usually, it’s not one strategy that changes everything.
It’s learning how to work with your brain instead of constantly fighting against it.
The ADHD 5-3-1 rule became popular because people with ADHD are exhausted by systems that feel punishing.
And honestly, that makes sense.
Many ADHDers grew up hearing messages like:
“You’re lazy.”
“You just need more discipline.”
“You’re not trying hard enough.”
So when a simple framework offers even a little relief, people naturally gravitate toward it.
But no viral productivity method is universally effective.
ADHD is complex.
Brains are different.
And flexibility matters.
If the 5-3-1 rule helps you feel calmer and more focused, that’s wonderful.
If it doesn’t?
That doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It may just mean your brain needs something different.
And that’s okay.
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Barkley, R. A. (2015). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment.
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ADD Resource Center. “ADHD and Overwhelm: Why It Hits Harder and What to Do.”
Smithsonian Magazine. “As ADHD Coaching Gains Popularity, Researchers Stress the Importance of Careful Vetting.”
Grief is hard—period.
But if you have ADHD, it can feel especially confusing.
If you’re in Minneapolis, Saint Paul, or the greater Twin Cities area, you might notice your grief doesn’t follow the “typical” path people talk about.
One day you’re okay. The next, you’re overwhelmed. Then maybe you feel nothing at all—and wonder if something’s wrong.
You’re not grieving wrong.
ADHD changes how your brain regulates and processes grief.
Research shows that emotional dysregulation is a core feature of ADHD, affecting a large percentage of adults.
Barkley (2015) describes emotional regulation as a central impairment in ADHD
Shaw et al. (2014) found persistent emotional control differences in individuals with ADHD
A meta-analysis by Beheshti et al. (2020) found elevated emotional reactivity in adults with ADHD
What this means in real life:
Emotions hit fast
They feel intense
They’re harder to calm once activated
Grief already pushes the emotional system—ADHD amplifies that experience.
You may experience:
Sudden emotional overwhelm
Periods of feeling okay or distracted
Then being hit again later
This pattern aligns with research on emotion regulation variability in ADHD, not avoidance.
Studies show that emotional suppression increases distress, while ADHD populations are more prone to suppression attempts. (e.g., Gross & John, 2003; Beblo et al., 2010)
That’s why grief can feel like:
“Once it starts, I can’t stop it”
Executive functioning challenges (initiation, planning, sustained attention) can interfere with:
Attending rituals (funerals, memorials)
Processing emotions consistently
Completing grief-related tasks
This can lead to delayed grief responses, a recognized phenomenon in bereavement research (Stroebe & Schut, 1999).
Grief itself can impair:
Attention
Memory
Organization
(O’Connor, 2019)
For ADHD adults, this creates a compounding effect, making both grief and ADHD symptoms feel more intense.
ADHD is associated with difficulty shifting attention—including emotional attention.
This can look like:
Rumination
Replaying memories
Fixating on regret
Which aligns with findings on cognitive inflexibility in ADHD (Willcutt et al., 2005).
Acceptance-based approaches (ACT, mindfulness) are shown to reduce distress more effectively than suppression.
(Hayes et al., 2006)
Try:
“This feeling is here right now”
ADHD brains benefit from externalized supports:
Scheduled reflection time
Journaling prompts
Rituals (music, candles, photos)
This aligns with executive functioning support strategies in ADHD treatment.
Research on emotional regulation suggests that graded exposure to emotion improves tolerance.
Try:
5–10 minute check-ins
Then disengage intentionally
Bottom-up regulation strategies (movement, breathing) support emotional processing.
(van der Kolk, 2014)
Examples:
Walking
Stretching
Slow breathing
ADHD + grief = overload.
Evidence-based ADHD supports include:
Breaking tasks into small steps
Using reminders
Delegating when possible
(Barkley, 2015)
You’re not bad at grieving.
With ADHD, grief is:
Nonlinear
Inconsistent
Dependent on nervous system regulation
This is why many adults benefit from ADHD-informed grief therapy in Minneapolis–St. Paul.
If you’re in Twin Cities, working with a therapist who understands both ADHD and grief can help you:
Feel less overwhelmed
Build realistic coping tools
Process grief in manageable ways
Common searches this page supports:
ADHD therapist Minneapolis
Grief counseling St. Paul
ADHD therapy near me
Adult ADHD support Minnesota
Grief doesn’t follow rules.
ADHD doesn’t either.
You don’t need to force your grief into a “normal” process—
you need support that works with your brain.
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Beheshti, A., et al. (2020). Emotional dysregulation in adults with ADHD: A meta-analysis. Scientific Reports, 10, 1–12.
Gross, J. J., & John, O. P. (2003). Individual differences in emotion regulation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 85(2), 348–362.
Hayes, S. C., et al. (2006). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 44(1), 1–25.
O’Connor, M. F. (2019). Grief: A brief history of research on how the body, mind, and brain adapt. Psychosomatic Medicine, 81(8), 731–738.
Shaw, P., et al. (2014). Emotional dysregulation in ADHD. American Journal of Psychiatry, 171(3), 276–293.
Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (1999). The dual process model of coping with bereavement. Death Studies, 23(3), 197–224.
van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Viking.
Willcutt, E. G., et al. (2005). Validity of executive function theory of ADHD. Biological Psychiatry, 57(11), 1336–1346.
If you’re living with ADHD—and especially Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)—hearing even gentle feedback can sometimes feel like a punch to the gut. But let’s reshape that experience together: feedback can become a bridge toward growth, not a trigger for emotional overwhelm. Here’s how:
It’s not you—it's how your brain processes things.
RSD isn’t rare—it affects almost everyone with ADHD, and rejection (or perceived criticism) can feel physically painful and overwhelming due to emotional dysregulation (The Times).
So when that feedback hits hard, pause. Acknowledge it:
“I feel deeply hurt—and that’s allowed.”
Naming the emotion (hurt, anxiety, sadness) helps tame that emotional storm rather than letting it spiral (Simply Psychology).
You’re not required to respond right away.
Resist the urge to defend yourself immediately. Instead, practice a gentle pause: thank the person for their feedback and give yourself time to reflect (Simply Psychology).
Use the next day to process your emotions. Ground yourself: breathe, journal, talk it out with somebody you trust. It’s a powerful way to shift from reactivity to clarity.
Feedback isn’t a verdict on your worth—it's an invitation to improve.
Especially if you've faced misunderstanding around your ADHD, feedback can feel like judgment rather than a stepping stone (Leantime).
Instead: interpret feedback as a signal—not of failure, but of potential.
Try reframing questions: “What can I learn here?” or “What strengths can I build on from this insight?”
You're more than any critique—you're resilient, creative, and valuable.
RSD often stems from deep inner stories of unlovability or unworthiness (focusbear.io, Leantime, Simply Psychology, LA Concierge Psychologist).
Combat that with self‑compassion: gentle affirmations, soothing self-talk, or supportive reminders like “I’m learning, and I’m enough.”
Surround yourself with supportive communities—Twin Cities ADHD, support groups, therapy circles—places where you can share and be understood without judgment.
Your thoughts aren’t always facts.
When feedback triggers RSD, emotional brain circuits can take over—and our thoughts rush us toward the worst-case stories (LA Concierge Psychologist, ATTN Center).
Catch negative self-talk by asking:
Is this a fact or my interpretation?
What’s another more balanced way to look at this?
What would a trusted friend say in this scenario?
These questions help you regain objectivity and reduce emotional distress.
Turn fear into intentional growth.
Setting rejection goals—e.g., intentionally seeking small rejections—can build psychological resilience. It reframes rejection as direction, not defeat (Vox).
Start small: ask for help, propose an idea, say no when needed. Celebrate each “no” as a step toward emotional bravery.
Empathy and strategy go hand in hand.
Therapy—especially CBT, compassion-focused, or neurodivergent-affirming styles—can help you reframe, regulate emotions, and understand triggers (LA Concierge Psychologist).
ADHD medication may also ease emotional regulation challenges and indirectly ease RSD reactions (Verywell Health).
Daily tools like mindfulness, journaling, or support groups help manage your inner experience over time (Healthline).
Look at feedback not as a threat but as a gift: an opportunity to learn, grow, and show yourself compassion in the process. Yes, having ADHD and RSD makes emotional feedback feel intense—but it also means your emotional brain is alive and deeply connected.
So go gently, celebrate your progress, and remember: you're resilient. Each moment you support yourself, you're being brave—even if it doesn’t always feel that way.
Sending you warmth, validation, and strength—because handling tough feedback isn’t about being bulletproof—it’s about being kind, intentional, and inspired to keep moving forward.
You’re doing amazing, and you’re not alone. Let Twin Cities ADHD be your cheer squad through every feedback storm!
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RSD as intense emotional and physical pain common in ADHD (Neurodivergent Insights)
Pause 24-hour strategy to process feedback (Simply Psychology)
Self-compassion, therapy, self-awareness strategies (LA Concierge Psychologist, focusbear.io, Healthline)
CBT, body-calming techniques for RSD management (The Times)
Challenge negative thoughts and rumination strategies (ATTN Center)
“Rejection goals” for resilience building (Vox)
ADHD “wall of awful,” reframing feedback and self-talk (verywellmind.com)
Let’s be real—having ADHD in a workplace that’s less than supportive can feel like trying to do a puzzle while someone keeps stealing the corner pieces. But here’s the thing: you’re resourceful, creative, and capable—and with a few strategies, you can protect your sanity and still shine.
You don’t have to walk in waving your ADHD diagnosis around like a flag. But if you need accommodations—like flexible breaks, noise-cancelling headphones, or written follow-ups to meetings—ask clearly and simply. Keep it about what helps you work best, not what’s “wrong” with you (CHADD, n.d.).
Not ready to disclose? No problem. You can still sneak in universal hacks that benefit everyone: block out focus time, take quick reset breaks, or adjust your work environment (ADHD Foundation, 2022).
Big projects can feel overwhelming—so break them into smaller wins. Your brain will love the “mini success” hit every time you check something off. Even better? Try body doubling—working alongside someone (in person or on Zoom) so you both stay on task (Hallowell, 2021).
Meetings can be focus kryptonite. Ask for the agenda ahead of time, jot down quick talking points, and give yourself permission to take short movement breaks. The more prepared you are, the less likely you’ll mentally drift into “what am I having for dinner?” territory (CHADD, n.d.).
You’ve got them—creativity, hyperfocus (when you care about the task), and the ability to make unexpected connections. These are huge assets, especially in problem-solving and brainstorming (Barkley, 2015). Don’t hide them—lean in.
An unsupportive workplace can be draining. Build in time for things that recharge you—movement, mindfulness, connection with ADHD-friendly friends, or even just a good meme break (MHA, n.d.).
Bottom line: You can’t always change your workplace, but you can change how you navigate it. With a few smart moves and a little self-advocacy, you can survive (and even thrive) in a setting that doesn’t quite get your ADHD magic.
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When it comes to ADHD treatment, stimulant medications like methylphenidate and amphetamine-based drugs often take center stage. But for some individuals—due to side effects, comorbid conditions, or personal preference—stimulants may not be the right fit. That’s where atomoxetine (Strattera) offers a compelling, evidence-based alternative grounded in modern neuroscience.
Atomoxetine is a selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor (NRI) approved by the FDA for the treatment of ADHD in both children and adults. Unlike stimulants, it is not a controlled substance and has no known abuse potential, making it a unique option in ADHD pharmacotherapy.
To understand atomoxetine’s effect, it’s helpful to briefly revisit the neurobiology of ADHD. ADHD is associated with dysregulation in dopaminergic and noradrenergic circuits, particularly in the prefrontal cortex (PFC)—the brain region responsible for executive functioning, attention regulation, and working memory.
While stimulants increase both dopamine and norepinephrine through transporter inhibition and increased release, atomoxetine works selectively on norepinephrine. Specifically, it blocks the norepinephrine transporter (NET), increasing extracellular levels of norepinephrine (and indirectly dopamine) in the PFC. Interestingly, the PFC has few dopamine transporters, so dopamine is largely cleared by NET in this area. As a result, blocking NET enhances both norepinephrine and dopamine activity where it matters most for ADHD symptoms.
This mechanism has been confirmed in animal studies and neuroimaging research in humans, which show increased catecholamine availability in the PFC after atomoxetine administration (Bymaster et al., 2002; Chamberlain et al., 2009).
Atomoxetine’s efficacy has been established through multiple randomized controlled trials and meta-analyses:
Effect size: While smaller than stimulants (Cohen’s d ≈ 0.6 vs. 0.9 for stimulants), atomoxetine still shows statistically and clinically meaningful reductions in core ADHD symptoms (Michelson et al., 2001; Kratochvil et al., 2006).
Onset: Effects are gradual, typically emerging over 2 to 6 weeks, with full benefit sometimes seen at 8 to 12 weeks.
Maintenance: Atomoxetine shows benefit in long-term symptom control, including reducing the risk of ADHD relapse in maintenance studies (Upadhyaya et al., 2008).
Executive functioning: Some studies show improvements in working memory, response inhibition, and emotional regulation—functions mediated by the PFC.
Atomoxetine may be a preferred choice in several clinical scenarios:
History of substance use disorder: No abuse potential makes it safer.
Co-occurring anxiety: Atomoxetine has been shown to have anxiolytic properties, possibly due to norepinephrine modulation.
Tic disorders: Unlike stimulants, atomoxetine does not typically exacerbate tics.
Sleep issues: It may be better tolerated in individuals with insomnia or circadian rhythm delays, especially when taken in the morning.
Like all medications, atomoxetine is not without risks:
Common side effects include decreased appetite, GI upset, fatigue, and irritability.
Rare but serious risks include suicidal ideation (especially in youth), liver injury, and cardiovascular concerns. A black box warning advises monitoring for suicidal thinking in children and adolescents.
Atomoxetine is metabolized by CYP2D6, so genetic variation or drug interactions can affect blood levels and efficacy.
Atomoxetine should be titrated slowly, often starting at half the target dose and increasing after a week or more.
Patients should be advised that benefits are not immediate—setting realistic expectations is key to adherence.
Combining atomoxetine with behavioral therapy yields better outcomes than medication alone.
Atomoxetine represents a meaningful advancement in ADHD treatment. Grounded in neuroscience and validated by robust clinical research, it provides a non-stimulant option that addresses core symptoms while aligning with specific patient needs. For clinicians, understanding its unique mechanism and application can help expand the ADHD treatment toolkit in evidence-based, individualized ways.
July 28, 2025 by Twin Cities ADHD
References:
Bymaster, F. P., Katner, J. S., Nelson, D. L., et al. (2002). Atomoxetine increases extracellular levels of norepinephrine and dopamine in prefrontal cortex of rat: a potential mechanism for efficacy in ADHD. Neuropsychopharmacology, 27(5), 699–711.
Michelson, D., Faries, D., Wernicke, J., et al. (2001). Atomoxetine in the treatment of children and adolescents with ADHD: a randomized, placebo-controlled, dose-response study. Pediatrics, 108(5), e83.
Chamberlain, S. R., Del Campo, N., Dowson, J., et al. (2009). Atomoxetine improved response inhibition in adults with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Biological Psychiatry, 66(2), 117–123.
Kratochvil, C. J., Vaughan, B. S., Harrington, M. J., et al. (2006). Atomoxetine for the treatment of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: a review. Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment, 2(4), 349–366.
Upadhyaya, H. P., Desaiah, D., Schuh, K., et al. (2008). Maintenance of response following open-label atomoxetine treatment for ADHD: a randomized, placebo-controlled withdrawal study. Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 47(8), 936–944.
ICD-10 Code: F90.0 – Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Predominantly Inattentive Type
When you picture ADHD, do you think of hyperactivity, blurting, and bouncing off the walls? That’s only part of the story. For many—especially girls and adults—the experience is quieter, less visible, and often misdiagnosed. ADHD, Predominantly Inattentive Type is a legitimate and challenging form of ADHD, and it’s time we shine a light on it.
According to the ICD-10, ADHD is classified under F90.0, which includes Predominantly Inattentive Type—characterized by persistent patterns of inattention without hyperactivity or impulsivity.
Difficulty sustaining attention on tasks or conversations
Often seeming not to listen, even when spoken to directly
Struggling to follow through on instructions
Frequent loss of necessary items (keys, notebooks, phones)
Trouble organizing tasks and time
Easily distracted by unrelated stimuli or daydreaming
Forgetting daily obligations, appointments, or deadlines
These symptoms must be present for at least six months, occur in more than one setting (e.g., home, work, school), and interfere with social, academic, or occupational functioning.
“ADHD is not a matter of not trying hard enough. It’s a matter of not having the brain wiring to do what others do naturally.”
— Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, PhD, NCC, LMHC
Because individuals with inattentive ADHD are less disruptive, they’re more likely to be overlooked—especially girls and women. Instead of acting out, they may withdraw, internalize their struggles, or develop anxiety and depression as secondary symptoms.
Adults with undiagnosed inattentive ADHD are often mislabeled as “lazy,” “flaky,” or “disorganized,” when in fact their brains are working overtime to keep up with basic demands.
The ICD-10 uses F90.0 as the diagnostic code for ADHD, regardless of subtype. In contrast, the DSM-5 provides separate specifiers for:
Predominantly Inattentive Presentation
Predominantly Hyperactive/Impulsive Presentation
Combined Presentation
Assessment typically involves:
Clinical interviews and symptom checklists (e.g., ASRS)
Collateral input from teachers, parents, or partners
Screening for co-occurring conditions
Rule-outs for other causes (e.g., trauma, anxiety, sleep issues)
Effective treatment for ADHD, Inattentive Type is multimodal, combining medical, behavioral, and environmental supports.
Stimulants like methylphenidate or amphetamines are first-line treatments. Non-stimulants like atomoxetine or guanfacine can also be effective, particularly for those with co-occurring anxiety.
CBT helps individuals:
Reframe negative self-talk (“I’m just lazy”)
Build routines and planning strategies
Develop emotional regulation skills
“People with ADHD are not broken—they have different operating systems. Once you understand the system, you can work with it instead of against it.”
— Dr. Stephanie Sarkis
Therapeutic coaching or EF-based interventions can teach:
Task breakdown and planning
Use of external structures (timers, lists, calendars)
Accountability and problem-solving
Students and professionals benefit from:
Extended time
Reduced distractions
Clear deadlines and reminders
Flexibility with routines and expectations
If you’ve been quietly struggling with attention, focus, or follow-through—and blaming yourself—it’s time to shift the narrative. Inattentive ADHD is real, valid, and treatable. With the right support, people with this diagnosis can build meaningful, organized, and successful lives.
July 28, 2025 by Twin Cities ADHD
References:
World Health Organization. ICD-10: F90.0 ADHD
American Psychiatric Association. DSM-5 Diagnostic Criteria for ADHD
Sarkis, S. (2018). Adult ADD: A Guide for the Newly Diagnosed
Barkley, R. A. (2015). Taking Charge of Adult ADHD
Tuckman, A. (2017). Understand Your Brain, Get More Done
Ramsay, J. & Rostain, A. (2015). The Adult ADHD Tool Kit
Navigating Summer Break with ADHD: Structure, Flexibility, and Sanity
Summer break can be a double-edged sword for individuals with ADHD—especially kids and teens. On one hand, it’s a break from academic pressures and social demands; on the other hand, the loss of structure can intensify ADHD symptoms and lead to more stress at home. The key to thriving through the summer lies in balancing freedom and flexibility with predictable routines and scaffolding.
The ADHD Brain and the Need for Structure
Dr. Russell Barkley, one of the most prominent researchers in ADHD, explains that ADHD is fundamentally a disorder of self-regulation and executive functioning. Executive functions include the brain's ability to plan, organize, manage time, and regulate emotions and behavior—all of which are challenged in unstructured environments like summer break.
“Children with ADHD don’t have a knowledge problem—they have a performance problem.” — Dr. Russell Barkley
This means they may know what to do, but they struggle to do it consistently, especially without external supports.
Why Unstructured Time Is a Risk Factor
Without school to provide an external framework, kids with ADHD may experience:
Increased screen time and decreased physical activity
Poor sleep routines
More impulsivity, boredom, and emotional dysregulation
Conflicts at home due to unmet expectations or unclear routines
Dr. Ari Tuckman, psychologist and ADHD expert, emphasizes that consistency and predictability help people with ADHD feel more secure and reduce anxiety.
“Structure helps reduce decision fatigue and increases the chances that things will get done.” — Dr. Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA
Evidence-Based Strategies for a Smoother Summer
Here are strategies rooted in CBT, Parent Management Training, and Executive Function coaching to help manage ADHD symptoms during summer.
1. Create a Flexible but Predictable Routine
Keep a loose but clear daily rhythm. Use visual schedules, alarms, or timers. Include:
Wake-up and bedtime anchors
Regular meals and snacks
Screen time windows
Movement or outdoor time
Downtime and creative play
Research in behavioral parent training supports using positive reinforcement and predictable transitions to reduce oppositional behavior in children with ADHD.
2. Use Visual and External Cues
Dr. Barkley suggests using externalized forms of executive functioning—like lists, timers, and calendars—to support memory, time awareness, and task initiation.
Consider:
A dry-erase board with daily tasks
Morning and evening checklists
Visual timers for transitions
3. Make Screen Time Structured and Earned
Rather than banning screens (which may backfire), set clear expectations and limits. For example:
“First we do chores and movement, then screen time.”
Use a points system or behavior chart (from PMT models) for motivation.
4. Focus on Strengths and Interests
Summer is an ideal time to support strength-based learning. This aligns with the ADHD coaching model which encourages building motivation and engagement through interest-based tasks.
Encourage:
Hobbies (music, building, cooking, art)
Outdoor adventures or sensory play
Volunteering or social opportunities
5. Support Emotional Regulation
ADHD often coexists with emotional dysregulation. Build in calming activities and help kids name and manage their feelings. Mindfulness practices, CBT techniques (like thought reframing), or even just quiet reading time can help.
Bonus: Support for Parents Too
Parenting a child with ADHD through the summer requires flexibility and compassion—for your child and yourself. Use self-compassion techniques and connect with other parents when possible. Books like “The Explosive Child” by Ross Greene or “Smart but Scattered” by Dawson & Guare can offer tools and hope.
Final Thoughts
Summer doesn’t have to be a free-for-all—or a constant battle. With intentional structure, realistic expectations, and evidence-based strategies, families with ADHD can have a summer filled with connection, growth, and fun.
July 21, 2025 by Twin Cities ADHD
References:
Barkley, R. A. (2015). Taking Charge of ADHD.
Tuckman, A. (2009). More Attention, Less Deficit.
Greene, R. (2014). The Explosive Child.
Dawson, P., & Guare, R. (2009). Smart but Scattered.
Chronis-Tuscano, A., et al. (2006). Parent Training for Children with ADHD: Evidence-Based Interventions.
Abikoff, H., & Gallagher, R. (2009). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for ADHD in Children and Adolescents.
5 Things Parents Need to Know About Supporting a Child with ADHD
Parenting a child with ADHD can be overwhelming at times, but the right strategies and support can make a big difference. Here are five essential things to keep in mind:
1. ADHD is real—and it’s not your fault.
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, not a result of poor parenting or laziness. It affects how the brain regulates attention, emotion, and impulse control. Your child’s behavior isn’t a reflection of your efforts—it’s a reflection of their needs.
2. Structure and routine are your best friends.
Kids with ADHD thrive when they know what to expect. Clear routines, visual schedules, and consistent boundaries create a sense of safety and help reduce overwhelm.
3. Praise progress, not perfection.
Many children with ADHD receive more correction than encouragement. Make an effort to notice small wins, like remembering a backpack or taking a break instead of melting down. This builds confidence and reinforces positive behavior.
4. Emotional regulation is part of the picture.
ADHD isn’t just about attention. Many kids struggle with big emotions and impulse control. Model calm, validate their feelings, and teach them tools to self-regulate—like taking deep breaths or using movement breaks.
5. You deserve support too.
You don’t have to do this alone. Whether it’s therapy, parent coaching, or simply connecting with others who get it, finding support for yourself will help you stay grounded and responsive—not just reactive.
Supporting a child with ADHD is a journey—and with the right tools and mindset, it can be one full of growth, connection, and resilience.
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to best support your child with ADHD, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Reach out to us at Twin Cities ADHD—we’re here to help you understand what’s going on beneath the behavior and build a plan that works for your unique family.
Contact us today to get started.
June 10, 2025 by Twin Cities ADHD
At Twin Cities ADHD, we hear it all the time:
“I thought ADHD was just for hyper little boys.”
“But I do well at work—how could I have ADHD?”
“I’m just tired. Or anxious. Or maybe lazy?”
ADHD is often misunderstood—especially in women and adults. It doesn’t always look like bouncing off the walls or failing at school. Sometimes it looks like perfectionism, overwhelm, or the invisible exhaustion of trying to keep it all together.
Let’s clear things up.
ADHD usually shows up in three patterns: inattentive, hyperactive/impulsive, or combined. But most people don’t fit perfectly into one box.
Inattentive Signs:
Constantly losing track of your keys, coffee, or that thing you just had
Struggling to follow conversations, even when you want to
Feeling mentally drained after “simple” tasks
Procrastinating until the last possible second
Forgetting appointments, birthdays, or deadlines—no matter how important
Hyperactive/Impulsive Signs:
Feeling restless or “on edge,” even while sitting still
Interrupting or talking over people (then cringing afterward)
Trouble waiting your turn—in traffic, in line, or in conversation
Speaking before thinking, and later regretting it
Needing movement, background noise, or stimulation to focus
Combined ADHD:
Many people experience a blend of both. In adults—especially women and AFAB folks—it might show up as emotional intensity, chronic people-pleasing, or feeling constantly “behind,” no matter how hard they try.
ADHD symptoms often overlap with other conditions. That’s why a thoughtful, personalized assessment is so important. ADHD is frequently confused with:
Anxiety – racing thoughts, restlessness, difficulty focusing
Depression – low motivation, mental fatigue, disorganization
Sensory issues – easily overwhelmed or distracted by the environment
Bipolar disorder – impulsivity, mood fluctuations
Trauma – hypervigilance, memory gaps, difficulty regulating emotions
It’s not about slapping on a label. It’s about finally having a framework for what you’ve been living with—and a plan that actually works.
If any of this resonates with you, it’s worth exploring.
No shame. No judgment. Just real conversations, real strategies, and support that sees your strengths—not just your struggles.
🌀 Ready to take the next step? Book a free consult. We’re here when you’re ready!
Twin Cities ADHD June 1, 2025
When I first started talking about building my ADHD-focused practice, I was on vacation, chatting with someone in a hot tub. I mentioned how passionate I was about helping women and families better understand ADHD—how it shows up, how often it's missed, and how much stigma still surrounds it.
Without missing a beat, this woman turned to me and asked:
“Isn’t ADHD caused by vaccines?”
She went on to say her grandson had been given an ADHD diagnosis and added, almost dismissively,
“We didn’t have anything like that when I was young.”
That moment has stuck with me. Not because I was offended, but because it perfectly captured two things I see all the time:
The deep-rooted fear and confusion around ADHD.
How easy it is to dismiss something we don’t understand—especially when it hits close to home.
So Let’s Set the Record Straight
Vaccines do not cause ADHD.
This is one of the most thoroughly studied questions in pediatric health. Dozens of large-scale studies, involving hundreds of thousands of children, have found no link between vaccines and ADHD. Not the MMR vaccine. Not thimerosal (a preservative no longer used in most childhood vaccines). Not the vaccine schedule itself.
There’s simply no scientific evidence supporting this myth.
So Why Do People Still Ask?
Blaming vaccines can feel emotionally easier than facing the possibility that ADHD might be something closer to home—something inherited, lifelong, or even shared. For many people, especially those from older generations, a diagnosis like ADHD can feel like a critique of parenting or an unfamiliar label for something they were told to “tough out.”
But the truth is:
ADHD has always existed.
We just didn’t always have the words or research to explain it.
That woman’s grandson isn’t broken. He’s not a product of "modern problems" or too much screen time or too many vaccinations. He’s a kid with a neurodivergent brain—and he deserves understanding, not doubt.
Why This Matters
The vaccine myth is more than just misinformation—it delays understanding, blocks connection, and prevents people from seeking the support they deserve. It turns a medical condition into a blame game.
And when we chase the wrong cause, we miss the chance to offer real help.
Final Thought:
If you’ve found yourself wondering about ADHD—whether for yourself, your child, or someone in your life—know this: it’s real, it’s manageable, and it’s more common than you think. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out in a hot tub debate. Contact us at Twin Cities ADHD - We're here to help dispel the negative narrative around ADHD. Contact us today to get started.
Twin Cities ADHD, May 29, 2025